Rahul finished his 12th and joined engineering . He was most girls favourite, but never got a chance to fall in love as he was always into studies to get seat in good college for Bachelor’s. Finally he joined engineering and got his own set of friends who were quite decent and more studious type (not first benchers though). As the days passed by , Rahul happen to meet a girl by name Ria through common friends . She was pretty enough and both exchanged their number and started phone dating for quite sometime . After 2-3 months they got more close and started meeting often and got attracted to each other more day by day . Please note , Ria was just 16 and Rahul was about 18years old.
Hi One evening as usual Rahul and Ria met and it so happened that she suddenly kissed him. It was first kiss for Rahul and a big surprise. However Ria had a boyfriend in the past and had broken up. Am not very sure if it was first for her. He was all thrilled and excited. After this kissing and hugging became a common thing between them. Now the actual problem started . As Ria was in her teens , she was more spirited and eager to try new things everyday in the relationship and Rahul was a little controlled as he was concerned about their age and wanted to take things slow like some good boys on earth.
Days were passing by and one day , Ria calls Rahul and tell him they should get more physical. Rahul was stunned and smiled at her because he knew he should give everything sometime and not to rush things. She went on pushing things and he did not want to indulge in the act considering both of their age and he also felt study is more important than this diversion for both of them. However he tried explaining to her , but she was not in the mindset to listen . More he tried to explain her things , more she felt, he doesn’t love her and feel her as his own. This created a gap between them and she started hanging out with her other friends more and less meetings with Rahul. Generally , Rahul is not someone who controls anybody and he gave her freedom to be the way she wants. After all this Rahul started experiencing negative vibes with Ria’s behaviour and her friends circle. She became more outgoing and drinking more often with wrong set of friends and always wanted to party with boys and stay over at their place. One fine day Ria calls Rahul to say , things aren’t working as great as she thought it would be and also she would want to end things with him as she is getting spark with someone else and she is more comfortable with the new boy she met a while ago. Obviously Rahul was shattered that everything ended so quickly as everything looked like a dream. Because it was his first Love with a first kiss experience. Post that for few months he was sad and sulked and then, it was time to move on. As he was in engineering every year he had juniors coming in. He found a next girl who was prettier than the first one. Haha! The story ends here.
When you want to do something there should not be any obstacles personally or professionally. The moment you feel there is an issue, it is very important to act on it and find a solution. In this blog I am referring to a relationship.
She is Q and he is X. Both of them are working in the same office. As both of them are working together, they have a good bonding and are attracted to each other. He is funny and she falls for his jokes. Laughter is the reason for their connection. Days and months pass by and suddenly she develops more interest in him. Meanwhile they spend more time together at work and also outside work including the weekends.
While off shore travel on work , both get more attracted and he approaches her to get into physical relation with him. She did not deny as he always gives her good vibes and never starts his day without calling her and texting her. She thought he may be in love with her . She is pretty and he is handsome. So there is a natural attraction. She wouldn’t mind getting into physical relationship with him as they are quite comfortable with each other.
And now she gets intimidated by him and they move little further in that moment. They enjoyed each other’s company so much that it cannot be described. Both of them want each other more and more. After some point she would get too scared of getting attached to him. One fine day, she asks him if he can marry her. He laughs and continue to be as usual with her. She scratches her head that what exactly the definition of the relationship they share. Somewhere he gets a hint that she is trying to give their relationship a name but he thinks they are just friends with benefits and he tries to explain to her. As her imagination was totally different she couldn’t not accept what he said. She is so attached to him now that she cannot come out of these things easily. A closure makes it easier to accept the fact and move on in life instead or dwelling in the same relationship which has no name.
In any relationship or marriage, it is very important to have a clarity. If one think there is no future for the relationship, it’s better to have a closure and move on and make life beautiful. Sometimes it is better to communicate what exactly one is looking for in the relationship, makes it better than assuming things and getting hurt later. Isn’t it?
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I am in Love mood today! What do you think about Love? If Love can’t be defined, why do we call some feeling as Love?? Is it okay if we love two people at the same time?? Have you ever experienced Love?Do you think it’s even right to love two people and being in relationship at the same time? Isnt it called cheating / betrayal? Why people are possessive in Love? If Love is never ending , why will people break up in Love? Can Love happen once or multiple times ? What is True Love?
Will people get into relationships out of love or Lust or by force ? If one relationship can end after being in love so much, what is the guarantee of next relationship? Or is it better to be with someone without any commitments or any strings?? If so , then what is Love?? We can’t predict our feelings right??
If love can keep changing from one person o another person , why do people say it as True Love and it is eternal or never ending ?? Earlier people used to die for the one whom they loved. Now the definition of Love has changed. In the current trend, Love with one person is temporary. It remains as long as one of them or both of them gets bored. I have been searching for a proper definition of Love and relationship but unable to find it till now. Honestly , I don’t know what is Love.
People say they love each other and get into relationships/marriages. Then they break it so easily as if it means nothing to them. In this case where did all the previous love go? Moving on is the next thing which eventually happen. But What is love? If Love can disappear from the relationship , why do you even call it Love or True Love or Never ending Love ? Why can’t we call this as a attraction or temporary attraction instead of Love? How many of us have the same feeling ??
If you ask me, I would say If Love is unconditional, Parents are the only definition. They give birth, care constantly, secure us and they never leave us till death. May be love is a wrong word if we use it otherwise. To an extent, siblings also can be categorised under Love.
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