An amateur date on TINDER!

Like everyone else , this lockdown has made me also get bored. I can’t describe the level of boredom though . I am never locked inside home like this before. In fact none of us . It was the same monotonous routine and suddenly I thought of exploring a dating site for a timepass for the first time. Out of curiosity I googled which are all the dating sites and it showed many like Tinder, bumble, and so on.

Tinder was something familiar to me as some of my friends used to keep talking about it and felt may be I should explore it. So one night I was super bored and decided to install this app. Later I started exploring this app. Soon after installing , I could see a lot of profiles getting displayed. Much before reading the instructions I just started swiping on the profiles left and right just to see which what next. Then suddenly I notice that my inbox getting filled up with a lot of messages 😂 I was super happy though without knowing what kind of conversations there could be. So many windows were popping up here and there showing interest in talking. I tried my best to talk to some 7-8 people at the same time. Almost everyone were looking for a sex partner and nothing else and one guy was talking about his bad life which was super boring. But this app kept me busy for sometime that night and at some point I got bored and deleted the app very next day 🤣

Finally before I deleted the app I got to know swiping a profile left and right indicated your interest and disinterest😉. It was fun though. For me , direct sex in the first talk was a major turn off😂. Then suddenly I realised may be am a bit old for this concept or outdated(Just Kidding)😜. Or may be I expected much more contented talks than just sex.

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What happened on 19th July 2016!

After 19th July 2016, every year on this day is so #memorable. Because this was the day she was beaten at midnight from her husband family along with his mother and sister and thrown out of the house dragging her pulling her hair from second floor. The reason was their greed as they had got married with a wrong intention. She celebrates this day as a BLACKDAY of her life till she is alive! Here is the story what happened.

Like all other girls, even She got married to this guy in an arranged marriage with so much dreams and desires in life. According to them they were all educated family and they lived in one of the best places and her place is a Village. During the journey of this marriage, she realised it was not an usual marriage. It was a set up and a business agreement within their family so that they will get their son married to a rich girl so that their son life will be settled. Initially she couldn’t understand as she was new to the family . But as days passed by , she could sense each small thing happening in the house and how each one of them as a person.

Basically her husband was never interested to be married. She don’t know for what reasons but other family members like his parents and sister forced him to be married and be the same person like how he was before marriage. He need not change and his wife anyways have to live with him and she will have no choice. This was the agreement they had. Before marriage also his irresponsibility was too much but then she was told by her family that guys will be like this only before marriage and later they will change. Remember, his family agreement is totally different. Finally marriage took place! And it was a grand wedding ceremony with lakhs of spending as usual.

After marriage, as usual some rituals few days here at girls home and then to husbands home. During this phase also she never felt his presence neither into the marriage nor her. He was just doing it for the sake of it. After some point of time , he started feeling her presence in everything may be because She was living in the same house and in the same room. He had no choice except to live with her and see her every day. Somehow he was trying to get in to her but then usual mother in law and sister in law tortures like in movies. Filling ears of her husband about her all the time and even when he was wrong, encouraging him. Always teaching him wrong things and to hate her.

As mentioned before , She started understanding lot of things and She used to openly ask her husband why things are like this and also how serious he is about this marriage. Apart from this, in her husband absence lot of things used to happen. Like a fool she used to discuss with him what happened in the house in his absence forgetting, they are all from the same family and she is an outsider. This used to build hatredness because his mother and sister used to change the whole story for him in a different way which would make him hate her. As days and months passed by , she and her husband started getting together well to some extent (which she believed things are going fine) . One fine day she decided to buy a car for their wedding anniversary as her husband always wanted a big car . They also took a test drive. Booked also. Him and his parents were very happy.

He somehow never wanted to change much after marriage. He wanted to go out with his friends and his sister almost every weekends but not her . Him and his family used to force her to go to her parents house every weekend saying she must see her parents and give importance. But the actual reason was , he wanted to go out with his friends and his sister almost on all the weekends. As she was working she used to be busy on weekdays and weekends was the only time she was getting to be with her husband and family. But they wanted her to go to her parents on all the weekends. She was patiently waiting for things to get better.

As a family they never wanted her to get pregnant or to even have a marriage certificate . Even her husband did not want her to have a child. She don’t know for what reasons. This continued even after one year of marriage . After booking a car , one day suddenly he comes and tells her that the chain given in the marriage is too short. His astrologer have asked him to wear a chain which should be long enough to touch the heart so that his luck will be changed. She said fine and told her father the same . Her father said no money and still he got the new chain which was long enough so that his daughter will not be tortured in any way. After all this, one day she was at work and suddenly fell sick and was falling on the floor and crying in pain due to severe stomach ache. As usual, her emergency contact was her husband and he gets a call from her office saying your wife is very sick. Please come and take her . In return he responds , please send her in the cab and I cannot come. May be the distance between his house and my office was abt 6-7km. He couldn’t go and later his sister calls her and asks if she should go to pick her up. She says No and later he will come in a bike. Takes her to the nearest hospital for check up with no money. The bill was 500Rs. She pays!

Everything together disturbed her so much and she decided to cancel the car booking. It was on 15th July 2016 , for a weekend she was at my parents house. Even her parents and brother felt it’s too much she is doing taking loan for a new car where in her husband was so irresponsible and ignorant towards her. So after buying car also it will be her who will face the same things by paying EMI and he would never change. All together car booking cancelled and she informs her husband the same that she changed her mind to cancel. And she returns to his house. On 19th July 2016 both of them had some argument about everything which was happening till then over the call . Of course she was concerned and upset about her life and she spoke , shouted and argued that how bad things were going. That day was Guru Poornima , him,his sister and mother had been out somewhere . She reached their home from work and it was around 8:30pm. She was tired and upset . She skipped her dinner also and went to her room in second floor and fell asleep. Usually her Phone will be in silent mode.

Later these 3 people , her husband , mother in law and sister in law have returns home by 11:30pm or so. They try to call her and as the phone was in silent she continued to sleep. Then suddenly these 2 ladies go to her room and knocks the door loud and scream her name(Ria). As she was in deep sleep , she took sometime to realise and get up, open the door. Soon she opened the door her mother in law will start beating her saying how dare she shouts at my husband and when she tried to stop her beating by holding her hand, her sister in law screams how dare she hit her mother and again start beating her. Then her husband heard the big noise and he goes to the room and time may be around 11:45pm or so . He hear from his mother and sister that His wife has beaten them. Then he just pulls her hair and drag her down from second floor and throw her out of the house as if she is like some animal. May be animals also gets a better treatment! How will she ever forget this incident and move on when it haunts every single day of her life?? It was Tuesday, Guru Poornima on 19th July 2016. At least for a courtesy sake he never tried contacting her since then.

Meanwhile through various sources she understood , all they wanted was a marriage for money not her. Car cancellation was the reason all that happened on that day! Today is 19th July 2020. It still haunts and bring her tears as and when she remembers it. Will she ever forget all this and move on in her life?? Well, I don’t know!! Honestly, she fought, argued or got angry in that marriage to save her marriage, never to break. Finally it broke into pieces which she could never correct! Never she asked for any money or expensive gifts nor she had any demands except a little Care if not Love.

Please check the background of the guy and family when you are getting your precious daughter married. She is MORE PRECIOUS. And let me not judge all the guys and on earth will be same. For her bad luck she ended up one like this. Though I had seen these things only in movies and TV Serials, I understand these incidents still happen in real lives.

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How I wish things were different now 😊

Sometimes when I think of current situations , I always feel it shouldn’t have been this way or things should have been in other way. But surely not the way it is! Am I the only one who feel this?? No! There are plenty of us who feel the same. But it is what it is 😂 isn’t it??

Something like if Duryodhana had not insulted Draupadi, Mahabharata wouldn’t have happened. If Rama had trusted Seetha, Ramayana wouldn’t have happened. 😂😂 Lord Shiva also faced issues. Creator Lord Bramha also have a curse that he will not be worshipped. It is always believed that , things happen for a reason. So this is about mythology. Let’s come to real life Ramayana Mahabharata’s now.

Many times we would feel, I shouldn’t have studied engineering rather I should have opted something else. Had I not met this person , things would be different . If I had not spoken few things , things would be much better today .. or If I had spoken things differently, the whole scenario would be different now. Its never ending . It’s done, it’s over. We can’t change anything now . It’s only we can wish , they could have been different and how it is not the way it is now.

May be that’s how it is meant to be. Let’s accept the reality and move on in life and let’s try not to harm others when we cannot do good to others . These things are in our hands but not controlling our past! Let’s make our life a better place.

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Someone I know !

Here I met a person few years back who had weird likings in life. He lives on his own principles! Weird but he don’t really care about anyone! He calls himself an influencer. What matters to him is his family! They are weird too 😂 At first I was wondering why he is like this ? Then after seeing his family, I din’t wonder much. It’s a family of four people where mother have separated her husband from everyone in the family and made sure it’s only she and her children for him. As she was emotionless , she brought up children also like that. Wherein both him and his sister cannot live without each other because they brought up in such an environment where it’s just four of them.

At some point both son and daughter have grown and reached their marriage age. For the society sake parents wanted to get their children married. Finally daughter got married first and after an year son also got married . For their luck both of them ended up being married to good souls and families . Now the actual problem started..!

As they had brought up in a closed environment of family of four , both daughter and son did not want to accept these new people in the family. It’s mostly like family of four remained constant. So now both children have left their partners saying they cannot live without each other (I mean siblings) . Daughter leave her husband first and she will make sure her brother also leave his wife. Now again back to the family of four. 🤣🤣 Parents never tried to correct their marriage instead they encouraged them to leave their partners . If this is what the mindset being parents why they got their children married at first place . Secondly being parents, how are they even peaceful being spoiling their children life! Now both children are jobless and sitting at home! Parents are as usual jobless!!

Family is always important but not to this extent! initially I did not want to judge him but as time passed by , I definitely had to be judgeMENTAL how anti social element him and his family is!! Also people like this talk too much and want to influence their surrounding with their thoughts in your lives. Finally it’s you who decides , who should and shouldn’t influence your life!!

After knowing his family background I realised , his family is the reason he is like this today! I later regretted for knowing him! 🙈 now I have realised , people like this also exist! I don’t want to judge if they are good or bad. But definitely worth writing ✍️ His mother made sure daughter and son grow up together and die together. May be as a mother she loved her children very much. But as a children they did not grow up well. One fine day he comes to me and tells happily that how people are scared of him and his family to talk about anything . I then got to know all the relatives and friends kept them away for their antisocial behaviour and their bad influence to escape from them.

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Getting Settled?

It’s all about people talk about getting settled!

So here I am confused about getting settled and it’s such a big taboo in the society!! According to people getting settled is either getting married(maximum people say) or getting a job(some people say) or going abroad or buying a new house , car and so on. 

Come on !! Nothing of these are permanent . Looking at the current trend a marriage won’t even last for a month , you might lose your job at any point of your time . Buying materialistic things will increase your burden of EMI’s! However the definition of getting settled has changed in the modern age. At any point of time you may sent back to your motherland from the foreign land you are working.

Olden days , people were getting married and staying together till their last breath. However the current trend is not ready for it. All I wanna say is Marriage is not getting settled , which can break at any point and one will keep on ending up getting settled again and again 😂 There is nothing called getting settled in Life. Just live every moment to the fullest.

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Our First Blog

We were thinking what to write and from where and how to start!!

Thinking ..! Thinking ..! And after so many thoughts that came across, we’ll start off with a little about us and a glimpse into our lives.

We would like to write about our experiences in life and also the experiences of people around us, the profound wisdom we’ve gained, the lessons we’ve learnt, silly witty stuff, the fun and laughter, the heartaches, the loss.. just about anything which is a part of our day to day life. Our stories might be interesting to some of you or might be a tad bit boring or repetitive to others.

We girls are in our 30’s, friends from a decade and a half. We come from different backgrounds with common interests, quite like minded.. agree to disagree on many a things, two of us love cooking and one loves baking, she can bake all day through the year! We holiday together, we would meet very often over cooking and baking sessions.. the usual girly stuff, photo sessions, and talk about almost everything under the sun!

The pandemic arrives! We couldn’t meet as often, we spoke to each other often over the phone, we had nothing new to speak either other than Corona, we were stuck at home. It was boredom of a different kind.. a new experience of extreme isolation. Being with family and folks is one thing, but for months on end, it was something else altogether. It was a new opening, we got to know more about people at close quarters, behaviours, attitudes and so on. We also learnt to cook better, to appreciate the small and big thing, to be thankful for our families, our pets, appreciate things and people we take for granted. It was the beginning of a new experience..

The boredom continued, that’s when we came up with the idea and concept of documenting our varied experiences, not just limited to everyday life but also to anything and everything interesting that comes up.

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